Andrew's Marriage Tool Kit

Activity - Love Letter      Writing this love letter made me feel so very grateful for Natalie and the wonderful woman that she is. Ah! I am so, so lucky. She told me I was "so romantic." Cha ching... 10 points for Gryffindor. But seriously, I need to do this more often. Things from Class "Never more like our Heavenly Parents than when we engage in a loving, creative sexual experience" - I think the key words here are loving and creative. People aren't like their heavenly parents when they are just having sex with someone random for a thrill, but a loving and creative sexual experience between husband and wife is Godly. personal line and the priesthood line - I found this profound because before I heard it I often struggled to find the balance between personal revelation and top-down revelation. This was a great point, that we need both to be whole and that each have different domains (or sex life being mostly within the personal line of communication)

Activity - Create a Marital Action Plan Make sure to speak my truth. Sometimes I'm inclined to hide that my feelings have been hurt or that I feel differently about something. We have remarkably few disagreements in our relationship and I think that when something does come up I'm often surprised. I'm also a conflict avoider, but I often need to kindly and clearly express myself and be vulnerable in order to move on from a hurt or a disagreement and not feel resentment. Sandwich technique. Along with that, I plan to utilize the sandwich technique when bringing something up. It is important to me to be sensitive to Natalie and her feelings. She is never out to get me, and deserves only kindness. Tell Natalie more stories about my life. It seems to me almost like Natalie has always been in my life, so I'm sometimes surprised when a story from, say, three years back gets brought up and I have to explain it to her. I shouldn't be surprised, nor should I become com